i’m going to delete this blog completely.
going to move to: halleus.tumblr.com

tumblr is just more convenient for me (they have an iphone app). there were many reasons why i haven’t posted anything for so long on this blog. mainly, i was busy. my life is full-on now.

anyway, go to my new blog.
i’ll delete this blog completely, in a few weeks or maybe earlier.

:D

yes, i laughed for a bit. then the humor died after watching a quarter of it. nonetheless it’s quite funny.

everyone knows of at least one case of a shitty relationship (or even a few, like in my world) where you and your friends are telling the girl: “why are you still with him?!”. i’m talking about those relationships where the guy is a drop-kick and the girl is someone who would probably get anyone she wanted if she were on the market. here’s what i mean:

the guy: has no job. no future endeavours. no skills. always taking illicit drugs. isn’t really fun or funny. rarely out going. usually/sometimes gets into physical fights with strangers. never goes out to anywhere interesting nor does anything interesting. has friends who are exactly the same as him. always seems to pick arguments with their girlfriend every day. does not like their girlfriend being around her friends (guys and girls) which over the years, leaves her with no friends. does not trust his girlfriend. and almost always, not really pleasant to the eye. there’s more descriptions you can add to this stereotype or bag of douchery, but you get the flow of what i mean.

the girl: has a bright promising future. studying in university doing a course that breeds success. physically attractive. fun and outgoing. very pleasant and caring. from a healthy caring family. in other words, a very sweet girl.

pretty much, they’re opposites. (opposites attract? not always?). most of the time, they always argue and in some cases, the guy physically hits her. it’s definitely not a happy and healthy relationship. you could say arguments are healthy in a relationship, but doing it everyday? especially over small things? does that make anyone happy? and if the guy even physically attacks/hits/kicks/punches/slaps her, that should definitely be the sign for the girl to get the fuck out of the relationship. but no, the girl does not leave this war zone. over time, the girl gets used to it. and the guy also gets used to the easy abuse. the relationship is rock bottom, but funnily enough. she can’t leave, because she still see’s something there, and/or she still loves him. THAT is the shit i can never understand. i’ve talked to some girls in these types of relationships, and they all say the same thing along the lines of: “i still love him” while they don’t have a proper explanation as to why they’re still in the relationship. i say: are you still thinking about the good times in the relationship and hoping it can be salvaged?

i bet you’ve heard of this: “yeah but he’s a nice guy, he treats me right”. look, ANY guy can be a nice guy and ANY guy can treat you right. some girls will disagree but seriously, anyone can be whatever they like. if a jerk can be a “nice guy” to his girlfriend, how nice would a nice guy be to his girlfriend?

yeah, but nice guys are boring.

it’s easy for me to say from the sideline when i have no emotions involved, and it seems that there is no logic with “love” or what ever you want to call it. you ask the girl to list down all the positive and negative things about the relationship, and you could say, the weight of the negative list is quite heavy compared to the positive. but logic doesn’t come into play.

when people say jerks always get the girls. yeah that happens. i can understand that. easily. but when it leads to abuse and constant fighting, then that’s where it gets all fuzzy for me. it’s not only me that does not understand. the friends of the girl in the relationship also think the same thing. the relationship also does a lot of collateral damage to other people.

there are many factors involved like, how the girl deals with things, or is not strong or tied up with secrets or a lot of other emotional shit; one conclusion is that some of these girls (along with their relationships) have put so much effort in that they can’t let go. it’s a normal human trait: if you put a lot of effort and time into something, it’s hard for you to let go. if you painted a piece of work that took you months to do, it would be very unpleasant to see it go up in flames.

another conclusion is that they want to change their man. they don’t admit it, but they do. the man is the canvas (a retarded drop kick), and the girl is the artist. this also relates to the: “if you put a lot of effort and time into something, it’s hard for you to let go”.

it could also be that the girl is put or has been put on an emotional rollercoaster of ups and downs in the relationship. and you know how much girls get emotionally attached when that shit happens. there is no denying that. sending a girls emotions up and down is like superglue for a relationship.

it still get’s as messy as mud even when after they’ve broken up or separated for a while, the guy still get’s angry at her for hanging out with her friends (or other guys). he still becomes protective of her, and she still succumbs to him.

it’s one of the many things in life i can never understand. i’m still confused and a bit annoyed at the topic. it happens. everyone knows it exist. some people have been through it.  i think i’d understand it more if i BECAME the abusive guy in a relationship, just for my own research, but that would be wrong.

damn those emotions.

for some brief backing of what i’m saying, read this: http://www.spring.org.uk/2008/12/12-laws-of-emotions.php

when i write about topics like this, it still feels i have plenty more to say, but can’t remember at the time, so there are things that aren’t covered here. i’m also generally speaking and this is my point of view. i’m viewing this topic from the sidelines and haven’t actually been involved in something like this. hence i have a lot to learn.